Have you ever worked extremely hard to get something? How did it feel to get it? Do you still have it? Would you like another one? Could you get another one? If not, is there something else you really want that is like that other something?
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For instance, I was really, really excited when I got my first car(actually it was a van). I worked a lot of hours and lost touch with friends for a while. It felt like an amazing burst of freedom when I got it. I don't have it anymore but I would like another new one. I could get one but I would rather have a different model(a car this time I mean). A top of the range version.
The car I will decide on becomes my Treat. I now link the feeling I got when I got my first car to one of my goals. So now when I reach that GOAL, I will go out and buy the CAR I decided on.
And now I'm excited!
So lets get started.
Just slogging away to reach a goal that will only be some numbers on a bank statement is pretty good when you're skint, but it's not motivation enough over the long haul. You need something you can FEEL. Something that you can remember feels GOOD!
So as you begin to plan out your goals, you need to add 'The Treat' to your goal setting routine.
Decide what's going to be your Treat first. If you're just setting out it dosen't have to be a car (actually, at no point does it have to be a car). It could be something quite small,like an ipod for instance, or maybe a new laptop. If techy stuff's not really your thing, what about something for your garden, or that new sofa you've been thinking of getting, or even a holliday. The choices are endless, but make that decision.
Each time you read your goal, close your eyes and FEEL what it would be like to attain your Treat. Read them out every morning BEFORE the alarm goes off(I'll explain that in a moment). Think about how you're going to achieve the biggest one (This will come easier the more you read them). Feel how it will feel to get your Treat.
Then just get on with your day!
I have another question for you. Do you know how to set your alarm clock to wake you up in the morning?
Sorry to be patronising but if you can answer 'yes' then I'm very excited because if you can do that then you can also set and achieve any goal you wish!
Two more questions...
Does your alarm clock have a 'snooze' function? And do you use it?
If you answered 'oh yes' to both those questions then I am about to share with you a simple little trick you can use to increase your goal achieving power. After I show you that trick, I am then going to give you the most powerful goal setting ritual you have ever known.
We are going to build into that ritual some specific goals that will make your life change magically. Goals we use ourselves.
First, what do I mean by a ritual? Well, simply put, a ritual, in this context, is something you do every time before you read your goals. You have to be in a certain state before you read your goals and a ritual is the perfect way to create that state.
The state you need to be in is one where your mind is not thinking about anything. If you're not thinking about anything, you will not feel anything but peace. This peacefulness is the perfect state for reading your goals.
If you're not in a peaceful state when you read your goals, if your mind is thinking about something else when you read them, it will not take them in or if it does, it will take them in and associate them with what you were thinking about at the time you read them.
(You should re-read that last paragraph)
Okay, let's get busy...
So... you must perfect this ritual for goal setting. It's very simple. All you need to do is to be able to 'snap' or 'click' your fingers quite loudly.
We'll talk about the ritual more in a moment. First, the trick...
You need to get into the habit of setting your alarm to wake you up in the morning and IMMEDIATELY GETTING UP. Don't you go using that snooze button. Get right out of your pit as soon as it goes 'bee'. Don't even let it get to 'beep'. If you are prone to getting dizzy when you get up too quick, just sit on the edge of your bed.
Make sure you do not dally OR use that snooze button.
What you're doing here is you are training your mind to respond to your will. After a few days of this, you will start getting up before the alarm goes off. Once this
starts happening, once you start getting up automatically before the alarm goes off, you're ready to start practising this ritual...but before you do,
you must design specific goals. Write yourself down some goals you'd like to achieve. Just a few things you'd like to happen. Nothing major. Just little things like visiting a friend or buying a book or... anything easy like something you've been putting off.
Now, when you get out of bed (Automatically by now, just before the time you've set your alarm for), go into a room where you will not be disturbed. Now stand holding your list of goals with your eyes closed. Allow all your thoughts to be there and you need to actually see them in your mind's eye as if they're like balloons. Visualise your thoughts as balloons floating around.
Now, the thing about balloons is that they're round. And if you place four balloons together, you end up with a bit of space in between them. No matter how hard you try to push four balloons together, you always end up with some space in the middle. )~( See?
Now find that space in between your thoughts and zoom in on that space. Go right in there like you're turning up the power on a microscope. Focus on that space. And do this for about 10 seconds.
Raise the hand you normally 'click' your fingers with to your ear and 'snap' loudly. Keep focusing on that 'space' for a few more seconds and ... 'snap' again. Now open your eyes, read your goals out load, think about them happening. From where you are now to when they're achieved.
Up to now I've discussed setting your alarm clock to train your mind to respond to your will. After a week or so you should be getting up automatically BEFORE your alarm goes off.
You should also have achieved some small goals. It's in your own best interests to at least try.
Doing those things makes you ready to design some specific and life enhancing goals. So that's the next step, and now it becomes more serious.
THINGS YOU NEED TO DO/CHANGE KEEP POPPING INTO YOUR HEAD.
When you set goals, your mind starts to notice the things around you that are NOT helping you to achieve your goals.
RE-READ that last sentence over and over again!
So what happens is that you start doing/changing those things to create the perfect circumstances needed for you to easily achieve your goal.
RE-READ THAT sentence over and over.
This is one of the reasons that you don't see much progress at first when setting goals. Because you are preparing the environment.
The upshot of this is that you will need to start carrying around with you some way of recording your thoughts so you can act on them later.
Jot everything down as it comes to you.
People around you will start noticing you're different
For starters, your mind is working at a faster rate. People will notice this.
Secondly, you'll be more optimistic. And people will DEFINITELY notice that! Your close friends in particular.
Now, friends are good... if they're really friends. If they start getting annoyed at your increased energy then seriously consider making plans to meet new friends who are more optimistic about life.
Just consider it. For the anger of stick 5 zombie mod apk sake of your future. You can now see that you seem to be making SOME progress towards your goals
The journey towards your goals will NOT be a linear one.
You will very likely take a wibbly wobbly route. You'll do some strange things that don't seem to be relevant to your goal. You'll do SOME things that are not even close to anything to do with your goals. But when you look back you'll say
something like "Everything happens for a reason".
You hear this all the time from people who have achieved something big. But don't listen to them. It is only their perspective on the situation after the goal is achieved. But things don't just happen (Not the things that take you towards a goal anyway)... you have to make them happen.
The real phrase, the correct one, is: "Everything YOU DO is for a reason."
WITH OR WITHOUT FEELING?
You set a goal to make £1,000 in profit in 1 month. Each day you read it out. Each day you take steps to make it happen. Every step you take reveals the next. The
fact that you are reading your goal each day makes those next steps the right steps towards that goal. BUT! After 1 month, you find that you only made £200. You become disillusioned with goal setting.
Back in 1980 I came across my first instance of goal setting. I saw an ad in the paper for a book by a guy named 'Joe Karbo,' you may have heard of him. My Dad thought I was mad, (even though he liked the title.) It was the first time I'd ever heard of the concept of setting goals, and I followed it religeously... For about a month. Nothing changed and so I gave it up and went back to my working life. I didn't believe.
I feel pretty stupid now.
You set a goal to make £1,000 in profit in 1 month. Each day you read it out AND you recall a feeling of achieving something similar. Each day you take steps to make it happen. Every step you take reveals the next. The fact that you are reading your goal each day makes those next steps the right steps towards the goal. After 1 month, you find that you only made £800. You become excited at the potential of goal setting.
When you've finished reading them, that's it! Do this every day for the next few weeks. Also, put a little bit of effort into achieving your list of goals. Just a little bit of will power. Nothing too heavy, and see where it moves you too.
Okay, when it's time to move it up a step. Try something a little more ambitious.
I will generate at least £500,000 as fast as possible
Whoa there!
You must set this goal without any thought to how you're going to do it. If you read it out every single day then here's what will happen.
1. After a week or two, you'll think of a way to do it. (A method)
2. After a month or two, you'll have put a full plan of action together.
3. After about 3 months, you'll have created the means to do it. (A great idea/s)
4. After about 5 months, you'll be able to see exactly how you're going to do it.
5. After about 8 months, you'll know that you will easily get it.
6. After 1 year, you'll be somewhere near it depending on how you persist and how often you read it.
That's the way it works out.
Can you see why people give up and go back to their work a day life?
But you'll only believe me if you stick to the routine.
We are creatures of feeling, which is to say that we communicate and experience the world around us through what we feel. It is our feelings of love, fear, peace, anger, pleasure and pain that teach us about who we are and the environment we live in. Nothing means anything unless we feel it. Only when an experience is felt on an emotional or physical level does it have meaning to us at all.
Words have no meaning to us whether they are spoken or written unless they are attached to and associated with emotions or feeling. For example if someone says to us "I love you" and says it without emotion in a monotone voice we are likely to discount it as false and ignore it, on the other hand if someone says to us "I love you" and says it with emotion and maybe even a tear in their eye, we are likely to view it as valid. We are then able to experience their love and will be more willing to return it.
If we look back on our lives we will notice that the memories that stick in our minds are those that are attached to some form of physical or emotional experience. We can tell the story behind each scar we have because the experience of pain we had around it burned its memory into our mind. To experience life is to feel it, it's to know we are alive, it is how we learn, it is how we grow.
I think that one of the problems we have is that too often we try to suppress or cover up and even ignore how we are feeling. We take aspirins and pain killers so we don't have to feel the pain we have. We drink alcohol and do drugs so that we don't have to feel what we are afraid to feel. We don't share our emotions, our guilt, our anger, our love, our peace of mind, or we share emotions like anger to hide how we are really feeling. We disconnect from the world so that we don't have to feel. As long as we separate ourselves from the world around us then it would at least seem that the things we feel are somewhat less intense, and defiantly less scary.
We can only suppress our feelings for so long; sooner or later the truth must come out. This is when we have a blowout with our spouse or the couple that seemed so happy together separates, or we quit our job, or in extreme cases someone takes a gun to work and murders the people whom he or she thinks are making him feel bad. Suppressing our feelings does not work because our feelings are who and what we truly are. We can't suppress what we feel because we are what we feel. To disconnect from our feelings is to disconnect from ourselves and from life, and to disconnect from life is to die.
The key to life then is to embrace our feelings, to communicate with emotion, to laugh with gusto, to cry not just with our eyes but with our entire body, to experience each and every emotion we have as intensely as we can. This is life, this is living, this is the way to connect with the world around us, and this is the way to find peace at last.